Once again I have little to say. I had a late day at work and young minds to confound. I like meeting very intelligent professionals who have been at the top of their field for a bit, they are so confident and quick. When they team up with insiders, they have the world by a string and then they meet me. LMAO.
No matter how smart you are, how experienced you are, if you are fascinated by the cookies, you cannot see what only others can. They race to the cookie and it never leaves their site until they get it, then it is on to another cookie. The more concept of life, our goal is to have more. LOL. "Silly rabbit, Trix are for kids".
"Who is this tapping, tapping at my chamber door?" My only response is that it "Twas many and many a year ago". Oh but I am cryptic tonight. It appears that "money" is now interested in doing something we accomplished long ago; but, where to go, how do you duplicate something you don't understand? You seek those who do and try and learn in a day what took a lifetime. Nice work if you can get it; but, the pieces never fit together the exact same way, it is custom work to change an industry.
To debrief, perchance to dream. While writing I was in a phone conversation dissecting every word and action of a meeting I had. I do the same for poker, analyze what happened, how did I get here, what did they have, what play will they make and how do I get them off their game. There is only one answer, do the right thing for the right reasons and trust nobody. I like that as a business plan, its one I can live with. Be well and be odd.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Please Read This
Just about everything I post is original, I include links but the comments and thoughts are my own. I like a band called "Heart" and was on their website looking for tour information, I came across their blog. Ann and Nancy Wilson are just amazing to me, both very special, Ann's words I thought were profound. For the first and possibly only time I am going to recommend you read her words rather than mine, I think she did just fine.
Ann Wilson to the Class of 2010.
Ann Wilson to the Class of 2010.
Google, Smart Grids and LADWP
I spoke about Google taking over the LADWP over a year ago and some people thought it was too way out of a concept. Read this article and think about it.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Two New Movies
The first one is called "Hall Pass", the story is that two married men keep looking at other women so their wives give them a week to do whatever they want even sleep around. Now, I am guessing the film, a comedy, has the men come to realize that they are better off with their wives; but, really what a disgusting premise.
My wife may have slept with another; but, the idea of me giving her permission to is impossible in my head. I have to add a caveat, I don't care what others do, I am not here to judge others; but, I am entitled to discuss the message we are sending people. Oh, in the movie, I believe the guys have kids.
The second movie is being made by Matt Damon and Ben Afflick, I don't know the name yet. It is the true story of two baseball players who traded their whole families to each other. Can you imagine such a thing, turning over your children and your wife to another and then taking his? That is insanity. The question is, "What does this tell the children and doesn't that matter". Cheating, like rape, is not about sex, it is about dishonesty, it is abuse of covenant. It is a lie.
What are we saying is acceptable? I am not asking what is acceptable, I am asking what we are making look as a valid alternative to having a family. What are we promoting in the media. We are promoting homosexuality, we are promoting not getting married, we are promoting not being parents, we are promoting selfishness. How many shows (and yes, I still don't watch television except for 12 hours a year or the very occasional movie) show a functional, happy, traditional family? Are there any?
Lets look even deeper, how many young actresses act like ladies and how many young actors act like gentlemen? The last few days we have been bombarded with stories about Charlie Sheen, firstly, who cares, secondly, no one cared before. He is a junkie and has a history of hiring prostitutes. The show he is on about a guy that drinks and sleeps around in front of his nephew and brother and his brother is made out to be the fool. The producer was apparently shocked that Mr Sheen lived that way in real life; but, he wasn't too superior to create and produce a show about someone who did the exact same thing.
I would prefer to write about the news tonight and may yet; but, I found these two films offensive and wanted to talk about that. That is not quite right, I didn't find the films offensive and could laugh at "Hall Pass"; but, I surely would not take young children to see it. My problem is not with an aberrant film, it is with the lack of any family positive films. Be well.
My wife may have slept with another; but, the idea of me giving her permission to is impossible in my head. I have to add a caveat, I don't care what others do, I am not here to judge others; but, I am entitled to discuss the message we are sending people. Oh, in the movie, I believe the guys have kids.
The second movie is being made by Matt Damon and Ben Afflick, I don't know the name yet. It is the true story of two baseball players who traded their whole families to each other. Can you imagine such a thing, turning over your children and your wife to another and then taking his? That is insanity. The question is, "What does this tell the children and doesn't that matter". Cheating, like rape, is not about sex, it is about dishonesty, it is abuse of covenant. It is a lie.
What are we saying is acceptable? I am not asking what is acceptable, I am asking what we are making look as a valid alternative to having a family. What are we promoting in the media. We are promoting homosexuality, we are promoting not getting married, we are promoting not being parents, we are promoting selfishness. How many shows (and yes, I still don't watch television except for 12 hours a year or the very occasional movie) show a functional, happy, traditional family? Are there any?
Lets look even deeper, how many young actresses act like ladies and how many young actors act like gentlemen? The last few days we have been bombarded with stories about Charlie Sheen, firstly, who cares, secondly, no one cared before. He is a junkie and has a history of hiring prostitutes. The show he is on about a guy that drinks and sleeps around in front of his nephew and brother and his brother is made out to be the fool. The producer was apparently shocked that Mr Sheen lived that way in real life; but, he wasn't too superior to create and produce a show about someone who did the exact same thing.
I would prefer to write about the news tonight and may yet; but, I found these two films offensive and wanted to talk about that. That is not quite right, I didn't find the films offensive and could laugh at "Hall Pass"; but, I surely would not take young children to see it. My problem is not with an aberrant film, it is with the lack of any family positive films. Be well.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Sexy Talk
I am completely confused, that happens. A news article came out that says that oral sex is the leading cause of throat cancer or something equally stupid, I didn't even bother reading it. I remember reading something not long ago that said that people three thousand years ago didn't get cancer, does this mean that they didn't have oral sex back then or what changed?
I went and read the article. It says that oral sex causes more cancer than smoking in the United States. Here is the article. I am smoker, if I can't have sex I guess I am supposed to smoke more, just to be safe.
The article also says that in other countries smoking is still the leading cause of these cancers, does that mean those countries engage in less oral sex? Maybe they smoke more? This is garbage reporting and science. What if the connection had to do with promiscuity? What if the more you were promiscuous, the more likely you were to get cancer from oral sex, nobody would like that answer.
I wonder how many people will stop having oral sex because of this garbage article? I knew a woman who believed that oral sex on women could kill them, I really did. How do we pass this garbage on to each other? Why do we tell people such things?
The world seems so confused by sex, it is a pretty simple. Sex is a physical act where two people share the joy that they can give each other. The rules are simple. Firstly, don't do anything that you believe to be WRONG, not silly, not annoying, not something you don't prefer, WRONG. If your partner wants you to suck their toes, suck em, it isn't a crime, it is not immoral. Second rule, make sure that your partner is satisfied FIRST. Third rule, don't ask your partner to do anything that they find unpleasant and no, you don't know till you ask. Final rule, tell the truth. Let your partner know what you enjoy and what you don't.
Now lets put this to the test. If your partner said that they liked to dress up like a clown, toss pies at each other and then have sex, would you do it some of the time even if you found it messy and not wonderful? Sex is a pleasant cherry on top of the ice cream that can be a relationship. It is not the relationship or there is a problem, by the way, that is why cheaters rarely marry the people they cheat with.
Now lets return to the issue of oral sex. Oral sex is pleasant and can be done by people who don't take Viagra. If your partner likes oral sex, why would you deny them? You might be thinking I am coming from left field tonight, you know, discussing sex on a blog that does not allow cussing, from a guy who cusses non-stop. Well, I think sex should be discussed, not a forced discussion (you know, taking your kid aside and explaining sex). Sex is very personal and should be discussed in private with children, reading this will not hurt them.
We don't tell kids about sex or death, they are real things and both serve a purpose. Sex is great because it gives us a reason to have a shared joy, death is important because it gives us a chance to have a shared pain. Those are the things we can share at the deepest level if we are honest. There are some people we do not wish to share at on a deep level.
Someone lied to me today, I have been lied to by everyone including the best in the world, another lie is meaningless. It was not about sex, it was about appreciating me. This person had done me wrong, knew it and wanted to convince me that they appreciated me, a coward to be sure. I am not ever accused of being a coward, an idiot or a crook, these badges cannot be effectively put on me. I have placed them on others that earned them.
To not tell your partner how they can improve in bed is to lie to them, this does not mean you act like an instructor, it means that you tell them what you do like. That has been lost by people sleeping around indiscriminately. If you are only going to sleep with someone once, why bother telling them how they are in bed. If you are married, you probably should tell them on occasion.
This post isn't really about sex, it is about pleasing a partner. Look beyond sex and ask the same questions. What is the proper way to please a partner in business, in life, in government? Start with the same things start with not doing anything that is wrong, make sure your partner gets what they need also, don't ask your partner to do anything that they are against and finally, tell your partner what you want out of the relationship. Now apply this to business or the citizens relationship with their government and vice versa.
Being a member of the National Honor Society of Political Scientists and a lot of other junk, I know something about government philosophy. Use what I said to evaluate any government and you got a start in determining how it should work. Have a great night, I already gave you sex and government. LOL.
I went and read the article. It says that oral sex causes more cancer than smoking in the United States. Here is the article. I am smoker, if I can't have sex I guess I am supposed to smoke more, just to be safe.
The article also says that in other countries smoking is still the leading cause of these cancers, does that mean those countries engage in less oral sex? Maybe they smoke more? This is garbage reporting and science. What if the connection had to do with promiscuity? What if the more you were promiscuous, the more likely you were to get cancer from oral sex, nobody would like that answer.
I wonder how many people will stop having oral sex because of this garbage article? I knew a woman who believed that oral sex on women could kill them, I really did. How do we pass this garbage on to each other? Why do we tell people such things?
The world seems so confused by sex, it is a pretty simple. Sex is a physical act where two people share the joy that they can give each other. The rules are simple. Firstly, don't do anything that you believe to be WRONG, not silly, not annoying, not something you don't prefer, WRONG. If your partner wants you to suck their toes, suck em, it isn't a crime, it is not immoral. Second rule, make sure that your partner is satisfied FIRST. Third rule, don't ask your partner to do anything that they find unpleasant and no, you don't know till you ask. Final rule, tell the truth. Let your partner know what you enjoy and what you don't.
Now lets put this to the test. If your partner said that they liked to dress up like a clown, toss pies at each other and then have sex, would you do it some of the time even if you found it messy and not wonderful? Sex is a pleasant cherry on top of the ice cream that can be a relationship. It is not the relationship or there is a problem, by the way, that is why cheaters rarely marry the people they cheat with.
Now lets return to the issue of oral sex. Oral sex is pleasant and can be done by people who don't take Viagra. If your partner likes oral sex, why would you deny them? You might be thinking I am coming from left field tonight, you know, discussing sex on a blog that does not allow cussing, from a guy who cusses non-stop. Well, I think sex should be discussed, not a forced discussion (you know, taking your kid aside and explaining sex). Sex is very personal and should be discussed in private with children, reading this will not hurt them.
We don't tell kids about sex or death, they are real things and both serve a purpose. Sex is great because it gives us a reason to have a shared joy, death is important because it gives us a chance to have a shared pain. Those are the things we can share at the deepest level if we are honest. There are some people we do not wish to share at on a deep level.
Someone lied to me today, I have been lied to by everyone including the best in the world, another lie is meaningless. It was not about sex, it was about appreciating me. This person had done me wrong, knew it and wanted to convince me that they appreciated me, a coward to be sure. I am not ever accused of being a coward, an idiot or a crook, these badges cannot be effectively put on me. I have placed them on others that earned them.
To not tell your partner how they can improve in bed is to lie to them, this does not mean you act like an instructor, it means that you tell them what you do like. That has been lost by people sleeping around indiscriminately. If you are only going to sleep with someone once, why bother telling them how they are in bed. If you are married, you probably should tell them on occasion.
This post isn't really about sex, it is about pleasing a partner. Look beyond sex and ask the same questions. What is the proper way to please a partner in business, in life, in government? Start with the same things start with not doing anything that is wrong, make sure your partner gets what they need also, don't ask your partner to do anything that they are against and finally, tell your partner what you want out of the relationship. Now apply this to business or the citizens relationship with their government and vice versa.
Being a member of the National Honor Society of Political Scientists and a lot of other junk, I know something about government philosophy. Use what I said to evaluate any government and you got a start in determining how it should work. Have a great night, I already gave you sex and government. LOL.
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Pension Fraud, Redevelopment Agencies and the Useless Mainstream Media
Anyone who has been reading this blog from the beginning knows that I spent a lot of time putting the dots together regarding Community Redevelopment Agencies and their illegal interaction with public pension funds on shady investments. I also talked about the extreme corruption and bribery. I couldn't understand why the media in
California did not follow the trails.
Now Ron Kaye and Zuma Dogg are pulling up the same dots. They are both bloggers in the Los Angeles area with large followings, still the newspapers aren't posting this stuff or following up. According to Zuma Dogg subpoenas are being issued (finally) and yet I do not read about this in the LA Times or Daily News or even in the LA Weekly, I wonder why?
A number of years back when downtown was being converted to lofts I contacted the LA Weekly and gave them leads that would have taken this all public. I pointed out that the conversions were being done illegally, that asbestos removals were not being done properly (as anyone could see). In fact to remove asbestos one is supposed to seal the building and provide breathing equipment. In Los Angeles illegal aliens were used to remove the asbestos and they were given paper masks, the buildings were left completely open. The LA Weekly never investigated it, too much at stake.
At the heart of all of this is the corrupt redevelopment agencies that tax with the promise to help the poor, Staples is not poor, AEG is not poor and a new football stadium will not help the poor, how bout some housing or basic services. We are in a frigging recession and LA wants to build a football field with redevelopment money at the same time that it is closing all of it's libraries and laying people off. Would you rather have police, fire, libraries and roads or a new football stadium?
Anyways, here is a nice article from the Ventura County Star on why Redevelopment Agencies need to be abolished. Enjoy. As for me, I hope they put them all in jail. I will repeat what I have said before, I believe small cities will be folded into bigger ones to stop the special favors that they bestow on friends and themselves and redevelopment agencies will be exposed for the crooks they are.
California did not follow the trails.
Now Ron Kaye and Zuma Dogg are pulling up the same dots. They are both bloggers in the Los Angeles area with large followings, still the newspapers aren't posting this stuff or following up. According to Zuma Dogg subpoenas are being issued (finally) and yet I do not read about this in the LA Times or Daily News or even in the LA Weekly, I wonder why?
A number of years back when downtown was being converted to lofts I contacted the LA Weekly and gave them leads that would have taken this all public. I pointed out that the conversions were being done illegally, that asbestos removals were not being done properly (as anyone could see). In fact to remove asbestos one is supposed to seal the building and provide breathing equipment. In Los Angeles illegal aliens were used to remove the asbestos and they were given paper masks, the buildings were left completely open. The LA Weekly never investigated it, too much at stake.
At the heart of all of this is the corrupt redevelopment agencies that tax with the promise to help the poor, Staples is not poor, AEG is not poor and a new football stadium will not help the poor, how bout some housing or basic services. We are in a frigging recession and LA wants to build a football field with redevelopment money at the same time that it is closing all of it's libraries and laying people off. Would you rather have police, fire, libraries and roads or a new football stadium?
Anyways, here is a nice article from the Ventura County Star on why Redevelopment Agencies need to be abolished. Enjoy. As for me, I hope they put them all in jail. I will repeat what I have said before, I believe small cities will be folded into bigger ones to stop the special favors that they bestow on friends and themselves and redevelopment agencies will be exposed for the crooks they are.
Holding on to the Cookie
All around we see governments in turmoil and nobody wants to compromise. In Wisconsin we see the establishment refusing to compromise and deal with the unions directly. For their part, the unions are also unwilling to give anything up. One Wisconsin official was caught on Twitter saying that the police should use live ammo against the demonstrators, he was let go. He is probably trying to get a job in Libya working for Gaddafi.
Iraq is a good example, imagine believing that you are entitled to own a country and do whatever you want without being questioned for 40 years, what arrogance. In Rhode Island one city has decided to fire EVERY teacher. It is a good trick, they can then hire back without considering seniority, watch this happen in Los Angeles also.
One Governor (I beleive it is also Wisconsin) talked about beating protestors with a baseball bat to someone he believed was a billionaire friend and wasn't. There is no longer enough to go around as it once did. Mother Jones (a left wing magazine) just posted a very good article on how the rich got richer and the rest of us got poorer over the past few decades. It is true except it ignores how much the average person stole. It ignores the underground economy of theft and drugs and prostitution and gambling. That is a pretty big industry.
Behind everything we are seeing in the news are a few themes. One theme is the idea of decision making, who gets to determine the laws. Jean Jaque Rousseau was a great philosopher and he developed the concept of "The Social Contract" along with Locke and Hobbs. The idea is that "legitimate" government has the approval of the majority of the people. That government and the citizens have a tacit agreement. When the people do not support the government you have social collapse as is occurring in the middle east.
Another theme is the distribution of wealth, how countries determine who gets what. We have seen the average person take a pay cut while we have seen bankers and executives of companies that failed take enormous bonuses. Another example is the corrupt politicians in small towns that took outrageous salaries while cutting civil servants.
One thing we have seen occur in more than one state was people refusing to be evicted from their homes once they have been foreclosed on. This is the same as Gaddhafi refusing to leave, it is the idea that you are entitled and don't have to keep your promises, your social contract.
I guess what I am talking about is letting go, letting go of anything, how quickly and when do we let go? It is like the idea of bankruptcy, when should we be allowed to not meet our obligations. It could be a marriage, a company, a government, any kind of mutual agreement. After ending the old agreement, how do you decide what the future of the relationship will be?
My wife decided to divorce me, she broke her vows. I sought to reconcile and she did not wish to, we divorced. Many people have been in this situation. After the old agreement is ended, what relationship do you have with your ex? I choose to have none at present, we will only see each other at funerals, weddings and births, if at all. Others like Bruce Willis and Demi Moore choose to continue seeing each other, thier divorce appears to have been mutually agreed upon. The same thing can happen with governments.
In Egypt, Mubarak decided to leave of his own accord. In Libya Gaddafi will not step down. Gaddafi will probably be killed, at a minimum once deposed he will not be allowed to return. In Rhode Island the government found a neat little trick to avoid dealing with seniority issues with the teachers; but, now what. Once they fire them all and only hire back the ones they want, what trust will there be between them and the teachers? How do you make the system work when you cheated the end of the last one?
I want to go back to the beginning. How you reorganize society depends in a large part to how the old one ended, it is best when it ends by mutual consent, when there is still some trust left. Problem is nobody is willing to agree.
Iraq is a good example, imagine believing that you are entitled to own a country and do whatever you want without being questioned for 40 years, what arrogance. In Rhode Island one city has decided to fire EVERY teacher. It is a good trick, they can then hire back without considering seniority, watch this happen in Los Angeles also.
One Governor (I beleive it is also Wisconsin) talked about beating protestors with a baseball bat to someone he believed was a billionaire friend and wasn't. There is no longer enough to go around as it once did. Mother Jones (a left wing magazine) just posted a very good article on how the rich got richer and the rest of us got poorer over the past few decades. It is true except it ignores how much the average person stole. It ignores the underground economy of theft and drugs and prostitution and gambling. That is a pretty big industry.
Behind everything we are seeing in the news are a few themes. One theme is the idea of decision making, who gets to determine the laws. Jean Jaque Rousseau was a great philosopher and he developed the concept of "The Social Contract" along with Locke and Hobbs. The idea is that "legitimate" government has the approval of the majority of the people. That government and the citizens have a tacit agreement. When the people do not support the government you have social collapse as is occurring in the middle east.
Another theme is the distribution of wealth, how countries determine who gets what. We have seen the average person take a pay cut while we have seen bankers and executives of companies that failed take enormous bonuses. Another example is the corrupt politicians in small towns that took outrageous salaries while cutting civil servants.
One thing we have seen occur in more than one state was people refusing to be evicted from their homes once they have been foreclosed on. This is the same as Gaddhafi refusing to leave, it is the idea that you are entitled and don't have to keep your promises, your social contract.
I guess what I am talking about is letting go, letting go of anything, how quickly and when do we let go? It is like the idea of bankruptcy, when should we be allowed to not meet our obligations. It could be a marriage, a company, a government, any kind of mutual agreement. After ending the old agreement, how do you decide what the future of the relationship will be?
My wife decided to divorce me, she broke her vows. I sought to reconcile and she did not wish to, we divorced. Many people have been in this situation. After the old agreement is ended, what relationship do you have with your ex? I choose to have none at present, we will only see each other at funerals, weddings and births, if at all. Others like Bruce Willis and Demi Moore choose to continue seeing each other, thier divorce appears to have been mutually agreed upon. The same thing can happen with governments.
In Egypt, Mubarak decided to leave of his own accord. In Libya Gaddafi will not step down. Gaddafi will probably be killed, at a minimum once deposed he will not be allowed to return. In Rhode Island the government found a neat little trick to avoid dealing with seniority issues with the teachers; but, now what. Once they fire them all and only hire back the ones they want, what trust will there be between them and the teachers? How do you make the system work when you cheated the end of the last one?
I want to go back to the beginning. How you reorganize society depends in a large part to how the old one ended, it is best when it ends by mutual consent, when there is still some trust left. Problem is nobody is willing to agree.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Spoke to a friend today
I have a friend in New York, we are sort of in the same industry. He called today and we talked about business and then about the world. I always enjoy talking to him about what is going on around us. My daughter likes him too.
The gentleman I spoke to met me at a bad time in my life. I was a train wreck, the only thing I still understood was my industry. I watched everything in my life go away or turn out to be lying to me. When your most basic understanding of your life turns out to be a lie your world is like water. When that happens to you, you have to go back to first principles and make sure you have defined yourself as you wished, I did and I had. If I had not been satisfied then I don't know where I would have looked, I guess I would have to start all over again.
Does the same thing apply to nations? I mean if a nation fails on it's most fundamental beliefs, does it have to start from scratch again? In Libya, Gadhaffi had his air force fire on civilians, that is how Russia lost to the communists. Already two of his pilots have defected, it is a hard thing to bomb your own family, most will not and cannot do it. When a government does something like that, it is almost impossible to get the support of the citizenry for anything. It is more likely that your military is about to turn on you as they did in Egypt.
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While I was typing my computer locked up and I had to restart and repair, I have no idea what I was going to say and have completely lost my train of thought, sorry. Lets tell knock, knock jokes instead. Knock, knock. (This is where you are supposed to say, "Who's there"). I answer, "Mara" and then you say, "Mara who" and I say "Mara, Mara on the wall."
While I was writing earlier someone asked me a question, actually they brought up something. They brought up the fact that I have only been with one person. They told me how they thought this was probably very rare, I do not know that answer; but, it is probably true. I told them that I was happy with my decision and planned to be with only one more. I don't know why it was on their mind, it wasn't on mine. I was thinking about what I was writing and then the computer crashed.
While all of this was going on it occurred to me why he may have asked me what he did, he wondered how I might view him. He had referred to himself in a derogatory manner regarding how he had been with the ladies in the past. Men would like to think that women are better mannered (and historically they were), we would like to think that women are less impulsive and more moral. Young men do not feel that way anymore.
I don't look down on anyone, I don't know how to. I know how to disagree with what they do; but, we are all screwups. I screwed up with who I married, I fought hard to stay married; but, I married the wrong person. On some level I knew there was a problem in the beginning. Now, I will be with nobody or one other person. I don't want to keep learning the same lesson. I cannot look down on others who have also made the same mistake. The question is what is the mistake and how do we avoid making it again.
Lets start with the simplest things, lets respect each other and act in a caring manner. Wow, that was hard. Lets make love and affection important, lets have sympathy for pain regardless of why it exists. Lets take an attitude that everybody matters even that jerk next to you who is picking his nose and looking at it. I bet he still hurts when you kick him in the knee.
If we truly care about each other, we will wait for the right person rather than test them all and break hearts and have ours broken. I am glad and free by the fact that I can wait for the right person and look them in the eye and say, "I screwed up and then I waited for you". The other person might say that they did not wait and was with a few or many. The only question at that point is whether or not they knew I was the one for them.
I don't wish to be with someone who sees me as a sex machine, a friend with benefits, a booty call. I don't want to base our relationship on sex, I want that to be the smallest part, I want their soul, I want to be a soulmate, then we can have perfect sex. I thought we were supposed to fall in love and then have sex, apparently the world believes we are supposed to have sex and eventually will fall in love.
Forgot something, we have a new follower, don't know who it is. Still can't figure out how people find this little blog. Wait, I know who it is, Hi, internet is back up. LOL.
I may be erratic in my posting for a bit, I am still settling in and have to turn over the keys to my house this week. Please excuse me, I will try to find worthwhile things to talk about. Right now I believe the news I have posted is sufficient.
Why have the Chinese built cities with no people living in them? Who would nuke an empty City? Is that a possibility? That they did it in case they were nuked? LMAO. It is, in fact, a possibility. We live in a very weird world don't we?
I see two problems with the way we are, men are no longer gentlemen and women are no longer ladies. There are still some of each; but, we don't even revere the qualities anymore, we are confused by them. A gentleman never pushes a lady, he seeks one. A lady seeks a man who will exhibit honor and show integrity. Instead we seek the cookies and there are fewer and fewer to be found.
What do you wish for your children, that they sleep around alot until they find someone that they like? Do you wish them to have a good time, to emulate you? Do you wish them to be corrupt, cheat on their taxes and steal really well? I like the movie "The Godfather", heck I like the whole series. In the end, it is about doing wrong and hoping that your chidren will not emulate you, can't live that way, they will.
Same thing is true for a country, when you stop prosecuting the guilty and reward the corrupt, you are headed for a failure. Eventually everyone is out just for themselves and that guarentees failure, just like it did for Rome. History is wonderful. The Bible is a good account of a history and every civilization is made up of the same kind of people, the same mix. It is about the sytems that we create that dictate how we interact, the rules that define a nation.
Only freemen can pick good leaders; but, they have to understand who are better leaders. No leader can force people to follow, then he is not a good leader. What we are seeing in Egypt and Libya and the whole area is the recognition that you can't be a leader by force, only a tyrant and they all fall eventually, their systems are not sustainable, watch what happens in Korea.
So how do you repair any relationship, you start from basics and find out where you made your mistake and then find the relationship that is right for you. Same applies to governments or businesses, you have to finally accept that you failed, your company failed, your partners failed, your society failed and then start from the beginning, "Why are we together in the first place". The answer should be, "because we work well together and want to work together".
The reason I didn't sleep with other women is because I didn't get the first part right and had start over. I had to learn to be around women again, I needed to see what kind of gentleman I was. I needed to be with ladies and I was. I needed to understand that I could be loved and understand what I wanted to be with. I had to date as I never had. I had to finish my growing up because it was interrupted and accelerated. My whole life I was responsible and steady, I needed to be free to re-evaluate my choices and I still liked them, so I am still living by them.
This post is another complete mess; but, the man said, if you are a writer than write. So I do. Be well and have a great week.
The gentleman I spoke to met me at a bad time in my life. I was a train wreck, the only thing I still understood was my industry. I watched everything in my life go away or turn out to be lying to me. When your most basic understanding of your life turns out to be a lie your world is like water. When that happens to you, you have to go back to first principles and make sure you have defined yourself as you wished, I did and I had. If I had not been satisfied then I don't know where I would have looked, I guess I would have to start all over again.
Does the same thing apply to nations? I mean if a nation fails on it's most fundamental beliefs, does it have to start from scratch again? In Libya, Gadhaffi had his air force fire on civilians, that is how Russia lost to the communists. Already two of his pilots have defected, it is a hard thing to bomb your own family, most will not and cannot do it. When a government does something like that, it is almost impossible to get the support of the citizenry for anything. It is more likely that your military is about to turn on you as they did in Egypt.
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While I was typing my computer locked up and I had to restart and repair, I have no idea what I was going to say and have completely lost my train of thought, sorry. Lets tell knock, knock jokes instead. Knock, knock. (This is where you are supposed to say, "Who's there"). I answer, "Mara" and then you say, "Mara who" and I say "Mara, Mara on the wall."
While I was writing earlier someone asked me a question, actually they brought up something. They brought up the fact that I have only been with one person. They told me how they thought this was probably very rare, I do not know that answer; but, it is probably true. I told them that I was happy with my decision and planned to be with only one more. I don't know why it was on their mind, it wasn't on mine. I was thinking about what I was writing and then the computer crashed.
While all of this was going on it occurred to me why he may have asked me what he did, he wondered how I might view him. He had referred to himself in a derogatory manner regarding how he had been with the ladies in the past. Men would like to think that women are better mannered (and historically they were), we would like to think that women are less impulsive and more moral. Young men do not feel that way anymore.
I don't look down on anyone, I don't know how to. I know how to disagree with what they do; but, we are all screwups. I screwed up with who I married, I fought hard to stay married; but, I married the wrong person. On some level I knew there was a problem in the beginning. Now, I will be with nobody or one other person. I don't want to keep learning the same lesson. I cannot look down on others who have also made the same mistake. The question is what is the mistake and how do we avoid making it again.
Lets start with the simplest things, lets respect each other and act in a caring manner. Wow, that was hard. Lets make love and affection important, lets have sympathy for pain regardless of why it exists. Lets take an attitude that everybody matters even that jerk next to you who is picking his nose and looking at it. I bet he still hurts when you kick him in the knee.
If we truly care about each other, we will wait for the right person rather than test them all and break hearts and have ours broken. I am glad and free by the fact that I can wait for the right person and look them in the eye and say, "I screwed up and then I waited for you". The other person might say that they did not wait and was with a few or many. The only question at that point is whether or not they knew I was the one for them.
I don't wish to be with someone who sees me as a sex machine, a friend with benefits, a booty call. I don't want to base our relationship on sex, I want that to be the smallest part, I want their soul, I want to be a soulmate, then we can have perfect sex. I thought we were supposed to fall in love and then have sex, apparently the world believes we are supposed to have sex and eventually will fall in love.
Forgot something, we have a new follower, don't know who it is. Still can't figure out how people find this little blog. Wait, I know who it is, Hi, internet is back up. LOL.
I may be erratic in my posting for a bit, I am still settling in and have to turn over the keys to my house this week. Please excuse me, I will try to find worthwhile things to talk about. Right now I believe the news I have posted is sufficient.
Why have the Chinese built cities with no people living in them? Who would nuke an empty City? Is that a possibility? That they did it in case they were nuked? LMAO. It is, in fact, a possibility. We live in a very weird world don't we?
I see two problems with the way we are, men are no longer gentlemen and women are no longer ladies. There are still some of each; but, we don't even revere the qualities anymore, we are confused by them. A gentleman never pushes a lady, he seeks one. A lady seeks a man who will exhibit honor and show integrity. Instead we seek the cookies and there are fewer and fewer to be found.
What do you wish for your children, that they sleep around alot until they find someone that they like? Do you wish them to have a good time, to emulate you? Do you wish them to be corrupt, cheat on their taxes and steal really well? I like the movie "The Godfather", heck I like the whole series. In the end, it is about doing wrong and hoping that your chidren will not emulate you, can't live that way, they will.
Same thing is true for a country, when you stop prosecuting the guilty and reward the corrupt, you are headed for a failure. Eventually everyone is out just for themselves and that guarentees failure, just like it did for Rome. History is wonderful. The Bible is a good account of a history and every civilization is made up of the same kind of people, the same mix. It is about the sytems that we create that dictate how we interact, the rules that define a nation.
Only freemen can pick good leaders; but, they have to understand who are better leaders. No leader can force people to follow, then he is not a good leader. What we are seeing in Egypt and Libya and the whole area is the recognition that you can't be a leader by force, only a tyrant and they all fall eventually, their systems are not sustainable, watch what happens in Korea.
So how do you repair any relationship, you start from basics and find out where you made your mistake and then find the relationship that is right for you. Same applies to governments or businesses, you have to finally accept that you failed, your company failed, your partners failed, your society failed and then start from the beginning, "Why are we together in the first place". The answer should be, "because we work well together and want to work together".
The reason I didn't sleep with other women is because I didn't get the first part right and had start over. I had to learn to be around women again, I needed to see what kind of gentleman I was. I needed to be with ladies and I was. I needed to understand that I could be loved and understand what I wanted to be with. I had to date as I never had. I had to finish my growing up because it was interrupted and accelerated. My whole life I was responsible and steady, I needed to be free to re-evaluate my choices and I still liked them, so I am still living by them.
This post is another complete mess; but, the man said, if you are a writer than write. So I do. Be well and have a great week.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Africa, the Middle East and being a partner
I have been busy and busy. Frantic drives back and forth to the high desert. I haven't even finished unloading my car. It was strange to see my house empty, it was strange to see the end so close. It happened so quick, life does that sometimes.
Every now and then I write about the purpose of life and the importance of relationships, sometimes they don't work out. You cannot make another person love you or even like you. You cannot make them have integrity or follow their vows or contracts, doesn't matter if the relationship is love or business.
People used to make more effort in their relationships. In business and in personal life I see little if any concern for relationships. I have a pretty good reputation in business and it makes a differance. Trust in business is rare anymore. On more than one occassion I have had people who did me wrong come to me and ask for my help, how many people can say that, how many have earned that respect, not many.
We have built a world around selfishness and self-interest, we revere "Looking out for number one". "They" say that we cannot love someone unless we love ourselves and that we cannot help others unless we take care of ourselves first, this is garbage. We hear phrases about how we "deserve" the best, nonsense. Too many look down on the homeless or the out of work. With a 20% unemployment rate (the real rate) everyone cannot get a job because there are not jobs out there for everyone.
There is revolution in the air all over Africa and the Middle East. There is even talk of revolution in China. We are seeing traditional governments uprooted in Europe. People in the United States are even talking about revolution. This is not a good thing. In Libya, the unheard of is happening, people are taking to the streets and their leadership is saying that they will kill everyone rather than lose power. That is madness. Neither the governments nor the citizens are any longer looking to work together.
I am sorry, you can hate President Obama and his policies; but, he was legally elected, I don't care if you think he isn't an American, he is. If he wasn't it still wouldn't matter. It is ridiculous to argue that children born here are not citizens and that they are Mexican because their parents were here illegally and then turn around and complain that Obama, whose mother was a US citizen, is not an American.
Personally, I don't like Obama's policies; but, he is our president. There have been many presidents I did not like; but, I respected their position. I can see a day when congress will pass laws and the citizens will have to approve them by a simple majority oever the internet. Gridlock results.
How do you repair a relationship once it is broken? Arnold Toynbee (the greatest of all historians) said that societies fail when they can no longer effectively deal with their challenges. It occurs when people stop trying to work together, I think we are just about there.
In Libya, the government is saying that it doesn't want to work with the people, in the United States and Europe people are saying they don't wish to work with their governments anymore. Where is compromise, there is none when people are only looking out for themselves. Rome is a great example, they survived bad leaders; but, could not survive when they collapsed from within because people only looked out for themselves.
Perhaps it is best to ask how societies start. They begin when people come together because they recognize that we have common needs and that it is easier to meet all of our needs by working together. If the society then rewards based on a basis of worth and effort it will flourish. Babies are the most selfish thing in the universe, they have to be taught empathy and team work. They have to be taught that others matter.
I am okay because I have good friends. It is one of the reasons why I don't just chuck it all and leave. I still care about my City, so I keep my job for the moment. I believe we can work together, I just don't see too many willing to stop chasing the darn cookies and try. Maybe that is what the Devil accuses us of day and night.
I believe we can change governments and nothing will improve. I believe we can vote on things directly and nothing will improve. I believe you can have all the prosperity in the world and not be successful. The Unibomber wrote a "manifesto", some in the tech field have quoted him. He was a Harvard graduate and one of the finest mathmaticians in the world. He believed we would allow technology to become our reality and that it would dehumanize us. He talked about what he believed to be a basic human need, the need to feel achievement.
Ted Kazynski believed that people needed to feel some sense of achievement and that if they could not do it in a meaningful way (ways that improved people's lives) then they could find it in sports or other things. He would be horrified by the virtual lives that people are living now. People go home to find their achievement in video games or on facebook. It is a purely subjective achievement.
Tomorrow is President's day, a day on which we recognize the people who have led our country, the United States. I will say a prayer for President Obama, not because I agree with him, because he has the worst job in the world and everybody can use a prayer. There are two things that have never hurt me, a prayer for me and a hug. Be well. I will post on the news soon enough, perhaps I will talk about the "extra" planet they are saying is in our solar system.
You gotta love it. First we are told that we may have two suns and then that we have an extra planet and we just figured it out. Have a great week.
Every now and then I write about the purpose of life and the importance of relationships, sometimes they don't work out. You cannot make another person love you or even like you. You cannot make them have integrity or follow their vows or contracts, doesn't matter if the relationship is love or business.
People used to make more effort in their relationships. In business and in personal life I see little if any concern for relationships. I have a pretty good reputation in business and it makes a differance. Trust in business is rare anymore. On more than one occassion I have had people who did me wrong come to me and ask for my help, how many people can say that, how many have earned that respect, not many.
We have built a world around selfishness and self-interest, we revere "Looking out for number one". "They" say that we cannot love someone unless we love ourselves and that we cannot help others unless we take care of ourselves first, this is garbage. We hear phrases about how we "deserve" the best, nonsense. Too many look down on the homeless or the out of work. With a 20% unemployment rate (the real rate) everyone cannot get a job because there are not jobs out there for everyone.
There is revolution in the air all over Africa and the Middle East. There is even talk of revolution in China. We are seeing traditional governments uprooted in Europe. People in the United States are even talking about revolution. This is not a good thing. In Libya, the unheard of is happening, people are taking to the streets and their leadership is saying that they will kill everyone rather than lose power. That is madness. Neither the governments nor the citizens are any longer looking to work together.
I am sorry, you can hate President Obama and his policies; but, he was legally elected, I don't care if you think he isn't an American, he is. If he wasn't it still wouldn't matter. It is ridiculous to argue that children born here are not citizens and that they are Mexican because their parents were here illegally and then turn around and complain that Obama, whose mother was a US citizen, is not an American.
Personally, I don't like Obama's policies; but, he is our president. There have been many presidents I did not like; but, I respected their position. I can see a day when congress will pass laws and the citizens will have to approve them by a simple majority oever the internet. Gridlock results.
How do you repair a relationship once it is broken? Arnold Toynbee (the greatest of all historians) said that societies fail when they can no longer effectively deal with their challenges. It occurs when people stop trying to work together, I think we are just about there.
In Libya, the government is saying that it doesn't want to work with the people, in the United States and Europe people are saying they don't wish to work with their governments anymore. Where is compromise, there is none when people are only looking out for themselves. Rome is a great example, they survived bad leaders; but, could not survive when they collapsed from within because people only looked out for themselves.
Perhaps it is best to ask how societies start. They begin when people come together because they recognize that we have common needs and that it is easier to meet all of our needs by working together. If the society then rewards based on a basis of worth and effort it will flourish. Babies are the most selfish thing in the universe, they have to be taught empathy and team work. They have to be taught that others matter.
I am okay because I have good friends. It is one of the reasons why I don't just chuck it all and leave. I still care about my City, so I keep my job for the moment. I believe we can work together, I just don't see too many willing to stop chasing the darn cookies and try. Maybe that is what the Devil accuses us of day and night.
I believe we can change governments and nothing will improve. I believe we can vote on things directly and nothing will improve. I believe you can have all the prosperity in the world and not be successful. The Unibomber wrote a "manifesto", some in the tech field have quoted him. He was a Harvard graduate and one of the finest mathmaticians in the world. He believed we would allow technology to become our reality and that it would dehumanize us. He talked about what he believed to be a basic human need, the need to feel achievement.
Ted Kazynski believed that people needed to feel some sense of achievement and that if they could not do it in a meaningful way (ways that improved people's lives) then they could find it in sports or other things. He would be horrified by the virtual lives that people are living now. People go home to find their achievement in video games or on facebook. It is a purely subjective achievement.
Tomorrow is President's day, a day on which we recognize the people who have led our country, the United States. I will say a prayer for President Obama, not because I agree with him, because he has the worst job in the world and everybody can use a prayer. There are two things that have never hurt me, a prayer for me and a hug. Be well. I will post on the news soon enough, perhaps I will talk about the "extra" planet they are saying is in our solar system.
You gotta love it. First we are told that we may have two suns and then that we have an extra planet and we just figured it out. Have a great week.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
I Am Back And Still Twisted
I finally have my internet connection back up and have a thing or two to say. Take care and wait. Be well.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Still no internet connection
Sorry all, no connection from my house. Be well. I will be back when I can.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Heard some bad news
Sorry guys, no big post tonight unless my mind completely wanders. My best female friend had a tragedy in her life. A young relative died in a freak accident. Freak accidents suck. It tripped my friend out and that is understandable. She is a strong woman; but, some stuff is very heavy. She will overcome.
We have lost one of the special ones, her relative was quite unique and brilliant. Special. One of my best male friends lost a son, that was heart wrenching. Sons should not die before fathers, that is how we all feel. I do not know for a fact, I only know what I feel. The older we get, the harder it is to watch the younger ones go. We would prefer to go first and not out of selfishness, there is so much more that we can do and the young don't get the chance to prove themselves.
That is how it feels, it may not be how it is. Perhaps they get it sooner and don't have to stick around; but, how can you tell that to a parent? There was a time that I was convinced that one of my children would die before I did. I prepared myself for it because I had to. It was shear hell and it almost came true a couple of times. As we age we have to accept that it does occur sometimes, I hate that; but, it is what it is.
I knew a woman, she hated God, she believed in him; but, hated him. She hated him because a young child had died and she said she couldn't love a God that took young children. I feel the opposite, this place ain't that great. Maybe only the good do die young. Hey, if there is nothing after this life than there is no God. If there is something after this life then it is probably a better place. We are all just doing time on planet earth and I believe it is so we can better understand our decision making, define ourselves.
Now, if there is life after this life than we are here for a reason. That is why I am completely against suicide. It is a philosophical issue. The apostle Paul spoke well, he wished to leave this place; but, he said his job was to give it all up till the end. He was an amazing guy. Sometimes I wonder about the people in the bible, how their lives seemed to them. If you have read any of the apostles you should wonder how they saw their lives, not like we do. They got up, hit the restroom, ate, went out to get abuse, came home, ate, talked about their day and went to bed. Peter got nailed to a cross and had it turned upside down, that doesn't sound fun.
Imagine Noah's life. What a joke that was. God talks to him one day (like that is easy) and he tells Noah to build a big boat. Wait, it gets better, then he tells Noah that he is going to kill everyone on the earth. I bet Noah was a pretty chipper guy, how do you take what he was told. Yeah, everyone is gonna die but you? You think he was happy, I doubt it.
After everyone died, Noah got hammered. I mean the guy got piss drunk and passed out. His sons found him and one of them laughed at him, the others covered him. Why did Noah get piss drunk? Nobody ever asks these questions. Noah knew God and got sloppy drunk and God loved him. Why? Because God knew how challenged Noah had been and knew that Noah needed a break. If you never had it good, God will give you a break. The break was small for Noah, everyone was dead except the small remnant. He knew it was coming and had to watch it, knowing what it meant. That sounds heavy.
I drove down the street. It was dark, that happens when it is 11:00 at night, it gets dark. The street lights illuminated the road like so many pearls on a string. I followed the lights even more than the lines on the road. The lights knew the way. I traveled till I got to where we were to meet. I like that, sort of Raymond Chandleresque. Be well.
We have lost one of the special ones, her relative was quite unique and brilliant. Special. One of my best male friends lost a son, that was heart wrenching. Sons should not die before fathers, that is how we all feel. I do not know for a fact, I only know what I feel. The older we get, the harder it is to watch the younger ones go. We would prefer to go first and not out of selfishness, there is so much more that we can do and the young don't get the chance to prove themselves.
That is how it feels, it may not be how it is. Perhaps they get it sooner and don't have to stick around; but, how can you tell that to a parent? There was a time that I was convinced that one of my children would die before I did. I prepared myself for it because I had to. It was shear hell and it almost came true a couple of times. As we age we have to accept that it does occur sometimes, I hate that; but, it is what it is.
I knew a woman, she hated God, she believed in him; but, hated him. She hated him because a young child had died and she said she couldn't love a God that took young children. I feel the opposite, this place ain't that great. Maybe only the good do die young. Hey, if there is nothing after this life than there is no God. If there is something after this life then it is probably a better place. We are all just doing time on planet earth and I believe it is so we can better understand our decision making, define ourselves.
Now, if there is life after this life than we are here for a reason. That is why I am completely against suicide. It is a philosophical issue. The apostle Paul spoke well, he wished to leave this place; but, he said his job was to give it all up till the end. He was an amazing guy. Sometimes I wonder about the people in the bible, how their lives seemed to them. If you have read any of the apostles you should wonder how they saw their lives, not like we do. They got up, hit the restroom, ate, went out to get abuse, came home, ate, talked about their day and went to bed. Peter got nailed to a cross and had it turned upside down, that doesn't sound fun.
Imagine Noah's life. What a joke that was. God talks to him one day (like that is easy) and he tells Noah to build a big boat. Wait, it gets better, then he tells Noah that he is going to kill everyone on the earth. I bet Noah was a pretty chipper guy, how do you take what he was told. Yeah, everyone is gonna die but you? You think he was happy, I doubt it.
After everyone died, Noah got hammered. I mean the guy got piss drunk and passed out. His sons found him and one of them laughed at him, the others covered him. Why did Noah get piss drunk? Nobody ever asks these questions. Noah knew God and got sloppy drunk and God loved him. Why? Because God knew how challenged Noah had been and knew that Noah needed a break. If you never had it good, God will give you a break. The break was small for Noah, everyone was dead except the small remnant. He knew it was coming and had to watch it, knowing what it meant. That sounds heavy.
I drove down the street. It was dark, that happens when it is 11:00 at night, it gets dark. The street lights illuminated the road like so many pearls on a string. I followed the lights even more than the lines on the road. The lights knew the way. I traveled till I got to where we were to meet. I like that, sort of Raymond Chandleresque. Be well.
Friday, February 11, 2011
What is currency?
A couple of interesting news articles out there. Firstly, China is building a very large building to hold it's precious minerals in, why not just leave them in the ground until needed? And at the same time the United States has just discovered that it has more oil reserves than Saudi Arabia. This one is good, we have just learned that we can drill straight down to recover the oil, huh?
Two currency things going on. The IMF is recommending that we use a conglomerated currency as the world's reserve currency and the stock markets are about to be consolidated.
Here is what I see. We are going to consolidate international trading currencies and currencies will be resource based. In other words the value of your money will be based on the value of your mineral and other resources. It is like going to the gold based currency; but, includes all of your tangible resources. This means that if you don't pay your foreign debt you will need to give them your natural resources. In order for that to work countries will begin to nationalize ownership of the minerals or at least control their use.
From an economic standpoint this makes partial sense. Currencies based on promises can have high inflationary points. Currencies based on minerals become very restricted. It leads countries to over mine minerals and store resources. I will attempt to keep an eye on these issues for the readers and provide more links. Have a great weekend and enjoy the love of your life. Be well.
Two currency things going on. The IMF is recommending that we use a conglomerated currency as the world's reserve currency and the stock markets are about to be consolidated.
Here is what I see. We are going to consolidate international trading currencies and currencies will be resource based. In other words the value of your money will be based on the value of your mineral and other resources. It is like going to the gold based currency; but, includes all of your tangible resources. This means that if you don't pay your foreign debt you will need to give them your natural resources. In order for that to work countries will begin to nationalize ownership of the minerals or at least control their use.
From an economic standpoint this makes partial sense. Currencies based on promises can have high inflationary points. Currencies based on minerals become very restricted. It leads countries to over mine minerals and store resources. I will attempt to keep an eye on these issues for the readers and provide more links. Have a great weekend and enjoy the love of your life. Be well.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Cause I Said So
LMAO. Just joking. I have nothing to post tonight. I was having dinner with a friend, he read my last post, I had thought of him while I wrote it and in a good way. He knew that. Relationships, real ones are very good for us. To have a good relationship with your parents and siblings helps to have better relationships with our partners.
Beyond family, we benefit from having people who are good examples, we benefit from mentors and we benefit from partners and students. Each relationship is a gift. I went to a restaurant with my friend today, I had never been there before. It has been around 51 years, the owner and I joked. He even played a trick on me. It is called Paty's and is in Toluca Lake. I found a new friend, we hit off and I said I would come back. That is the relationship I want with every vendor I use, a friendship and a trust. Every relationship CAN have that, you just have to be picky.
What do you want to fill your life with? Do you pick stores because of the cookies they hold or because of the relationship you have with the people there. I pay more to have more, a relationship. I advise others to do the same, it is our days, it is our lives.
I am not ready to get into the whole Egypt thing yet, at least not in writing. I am not ready to talk about all of the volcanoes going off at the same time, at least not yet. I am not even ready to talk about all of the crazy quantum physics stuff just yet. I may talk about love, I may talk about relationships or I may talk about what comes next. Then again, I haven't destroyed this blog in a long time and it may be night night time for this part. I can't wait to find out. Be well.
Beyond family, we benefit from having people who are good examples, we benefit from mentors and we benefit from partners and students. Each relationship is a gift. I went to a restaurant with my friend today, I had never been there before. It has been around 51 years, the owner and I joked. He even played a trick on me. It is called Paty's and is in Toluca Lake. I found a new friend, we hit off and I said I would come back. That is the relationship I want with every vendor I use, a friendship and a trust. Every relationship CAN have that, you just have to be picky.
What do you want to fill your life with? Do you pick stores because of the cookies they hold or because of the relationship you have with the people there. I pay more to have more, a relationship. I advise others to do the same, it is our days, it is our lives.
I am not ready to get into the whole Egypt thing yet, at least not in writing. I am not ready to talk about all of the volcanoes going off at the same time, at least not yet. I am not even ready to talk about all of the crazy quantum physics stuff just yet. I may talk about love, I may talk about relationships or I may talk about what comes next. Then again, I haven't destroyed this blog in a long time and it may be night night time for this part. I can't wait to find out. Be well.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
A Question About Relationships
I read this article today, I didn't care much for it. There is a website called "Save the Males" and sometimes it has something worth reading regarding how we, as a society, are attempting to stop men from doing manly things. I came across it and others like it because I did not like how boys were being given Ridalin at such an alarming rate. The guy is an anti-semite, in my opinion, and a lot of what he says I do not agree with. This article I did not like.
He wrote an article titled "Dumping my dream girl". I am providing a link; but, as I have already said, don't like the position he takes. He starts by talking about how he had a dream about how the girl of his dreams dumped him and he was okay with it. He then talked about a woman who called him repulsive and he chose to live with her for five year.
His conclusion was that men are brainwashed into believing that sex and love are the most important thing in the world. He then says that women are to be help mates, not soul mates. He finishes by talking about what a supporter of marriage and family he is. Sorry guys, I got a problem with everything he said.
I look around and see how popular his beliefs are and it disgusts me. I think we should break this down. We are self aware sentient beings, you have heard me say that before. We live and we die, we have the opportunity to learn from each other, help each other and share with each other. That is the greatest joy of all. When you die you don't think about the toys you had, the certificates, the sex, the cars, you think about the relationships you had and your loved ones.
I have gay friends, when I first meet them they often ask if I as a Christian believe homosexuality is a sin, I always say yes and than list out all the sins I commit, like lust (my personal favorite). I explain that there is no priority list of sins, sin is anything that falls short of perfection. They then ask why I believe homosexuality is a sin and I say because it is not perfection of union. And as I have said before, I don't care if the "government" allows gay marriage, it is just a contract, we should be allowed to make the agreements we wish. I may seem to be contradicting myself; but, I am not. I would not outlaw all sin and I don't know how to outlaw lust.
I believe we were made man and woman and I know how reproduction works, it is our genetic makeup. There are gay animals, they are not the ones continuing the gene pool. I don't want to know what people do in their bed unless someone is being forced or incapable of understanding what is occurring. There is a lot of nasty stuff heterosexuals do in bed that I simply don't want to know or see. I don't limit it to the nasty stuff, I don't want to know how you make love even if you are straight. I just don't want to know.
I don't care if people come out of the closet, stay in the closet, build a closet or even dress up like a closet. I don't care and it is not necessary to tell me. I won't ask. If you tell me I may ask why you like whatever you like. I don't understand foot fetishes, I have tried and still don't get it. If someone told me they had one, I wouldn't ask what they do with the foot, I would ask why it fascinated them (and I do want to know so leave comments if you have a foot fetish).
I didn't want to talk about the gay thing again; but, I had to get it out in the open to move on to what I did want to talk about, that special relationship we can have with the opposite sex and why it is the most important thing in the world. My ex was capable of doing some nice things, she wasn't all bad until the end. She was selfish and had found a new cookie and didn't care what it cost to get the new shiny cookie, that is when people are at their worst. That does not happen when we are with partners.
People talk about finding their soul mate, I don't like the term it is still just about sex and fun. I believe we have soul partners, the person who can work with us better than anyone else and every moment is a joy, win, lose or draw. I have seen that, my sister has that, she says they each married their best friend. I like that. True friends with benefits, the friendship is more important.
My best female friend in the world thrills me everytime we get together. We are perfect business partners and she is lovely. We both got cheated on at the same time and made each other laugh, she is part of my heart. We have gone out together, yet, never on a date. We love each other; but, know that we are not meant to be a couple. Not every woman you like is meant to be your life partner.
The article assumes that there are opposite sexes so that we can have sex, he gets it all wrong. It is not about sex, it is about relationship. Women don't think like men and men don't think like women and that doesn't change just because you have a sex change operation, it is not about body parts. Now here is the truth, women who want to become men and men who want to become women DON'T want to think like the sex they wish to become. They are instead focused on the body parts, none go to therapists asking to think like the sex they wish to become. Think about it.
Transgenders are a rejection of either the sex they are. It is usually because of rejection and abuse, they are turned away from being like their father is what I have most often heard. I know more gay men than lesbians, though I have known them also. Most homosexuals do not wish to be transgendered, that is a big leap, to reject your own body, to reject being your nature and that is the point.
Our nature is to be a man and a woman. Our sheeple choice is to be any man and woman, to look at the body and the sex rather than the soul and the ability to have a healthy relationship. I guess that brings us to what can be special between a man and a woman.
Imagine men and women at their best, we can be that with each other. Men can be good providers and learn to manage their emotions. Women can be good partners and learn to manage their emotions. Two adults, male and female created the families and institutions that allowed the world to grow. IT IS ABOUT THE FAMILY UNIT, that is the best we can be. Don't look to failed relationships, look to the best relationships if you want to know what we can have and then ask why they worked, why are we attempting to deal with failure rather than duplicate success.
When talking about relationships why are we as a society so focused on SEX. Yeah, I have had it and it is nice, I actually rather enjoy it. That is not a relationship. It is an action that can be part of a relationship; but, to be successful the other parts must be there first. How bout trust, would you sleep with someone you did not trust? People do. How bout understanding, try having a relationship with someone who doesn't understand what you think.
You build a relationship around everything other than sex and then sex becomes a benefit, a real benefit, a joyous experience that you share with the person who is your partner, the most important relationship in you life. It is not a responsibility, it is in your soul, it is your being.
I will not believe that we do not have soul partners, I cannot. I question what we need to do to be ready to be with them. In order to be partners, both parties should have advanced in certain areas so that they can become whole and compliment each other. The best relationships, the one's we should attempt to emulate, were based on true affection and providing strength and understanding to each other, holding up each other, sharing failure and celebrating success as a couple, as one.
The author of the article I linked to does not believe in love, I doubt he even understands what it is or what the best type of relationship can do for you, how it can change the world. He wasn't ready for a good relationship and didn't seek one, he sought a hot looking woman who would serve him, he is a jerk.
My business partner, my female best friend. She is the owner of the company and I refuse to sign any papers with her, yet, I am a partner. I correct her and sometimes often in one conversation, I taught her business. She, on the other hand, knew how to organize things by tiny details so that I could process the information. She is brilliant and we are one very dangerous team. I love her with all my heart, sex could only screw that up. That is a great relationship and great partner; but, not a soul partner. We were not right for sex, the least important part; but, the part that proves the couple. You can have good sex with the wrong person; but, you can only have perfect sex with the right partner because it isn't about the sex, it is about pleasing your soul partner.
The worst I have ever been treated was for asking people that if they found their soul mate and their soul mate said that they wanted to wait until they were married to have sex then would they be celibate until then, to be with their soul mate. The answer was a resounding and obscene "NO". They did not wish to accept that they might have a soul mate worth waiting for. That is sad, I made that mistake too. Wait. A bad relationship is worse than none.
People ask me if I will get married again. I say I may or I may not; but, I will not marry anyone who is not my soul partner, my last and only love. I stopped dating for a reason, I believe in love, not in test driving everything you see. I finally believe that love can be unlike anything else, I have not given up on love, now I believe in it because I have seen less.
It is easy to be ready for sex, it is hard to be ready for love. Ask yourself what it takes, I will give my answer, actually I think I did. Misunderstanding is the beginning of every relationship that works. It is when we don't quite understand how the other person can even exist, it is the shock we feel when we know they are too perfect to be real, that they compliment us completely and that we can still grow together, you only get one. If you are never going to be ready than you never get to meet them and certainly never get to be with them, that would violate the rules of eternity.
Valentine's day is coming up, I hope you are with your soul partner, if you are not then I hope that someday you are. Valentine's Day is not about celebrating the female in the relationship, it is about celebrating the relationship, if you do not feel it is a relationship, don't celebrate it. If you do feel it is a relationship then celebrate it. You will know the difference, if it is a relationship then your woman will celebrate it rather than try and figure out what you gave her. Be well.
He wrote an article titled "Dumping my dream girl". I am providing a link; but, as I have already said, don't like the position he takes. He starts by talking about how he had a dream about how the girl of his dreams dumped him and he was okay with it. He then talked about a woman who called him repulsive and he chose to live with her for five year.
His conclusion was that men are brainwashed into believing that sex and love are the most important thing in the world. He then says that women are to be help mates, not soul mates. He finishes by talking about what a supporter of marriage and family he is. Sorry guys, I got a problem with everything he said.
I look around and see how popular his beliefs are and it disgusts me. I think we should break this down. We are self aware sentient beings, you have heard me say that before. We live and we die, we have the opportunity to learn from each other, help each other and share with each other. That is the greatest joy of all. When you die you don't think about the toys you had, the certificates, the sex, the cars, you think about the relationships you had and your loved ones.
I have gay friends, when I first meet them they often ask if I as a Christian believe homosexuality is a sin, I always say yes and than list out all the sins I commit, like lust (my personal favorite). I explain that there is no priority list of sins, sin is anything that falls short of perfection. They then ask why I believe homosexuality is a sin and I say because it is not perfection of union. And as I have said before, I don't care if the "government" allows gay marriage, it is just a contract, we should be allowed to make the agreements we wish. I may seem to be contradicting myself; but, I am not. I would not outlaw all sin and I don't know how to outlaw lust.
I believe we were made man and woman and I know how reproduction works, it is our genetic makeup. There are gay animals, they are not the ones continuing the gene pool. I don't want to know what people do in their bed unless someone is being forced or incapable of understanding what is occurring. There is a lot of nasty stuff heterosexuals do in bed that I simply don't want to know or see. I don't limit it to the nasty stuff, I don't want to know how you make love even if you are straight. I just don't want to know.
I don't care if people come out of the closet, stay in the closet, build a closet or even dress up like a closet. I don't care and it is not necessary to tell me. I won't ask. If you tell me I may ask why you like whatever you like. I don't understand foot fetishes, I have tried and still don't get it. If someone told me they had one, I wouldn't ask what they do with the foot, I would ask why it fascinated them (and I do want to know so leave comments if you have a foot fetish).
I didn't want to talk about the gay thing again; but, I had to get it out in the open to move on to what I did want to talk about, that special relationship we can have with the opposite sex and why it is the most important thing in the world. My ex was capable of doing some nice things, she wasn't all bad until the end. She was selfish and had found a new cookie and didn't care what it cost to get the new shiny cookie, that is when people are at their worst. That does not happen when we are with partners.
People talk about finding their soul mate, I don't like the term it is still just about sex and fun. I believe we have soul partners, the person who can work with us better than anyone else and every moment is a joy, win, lose or draw. I have seen that, my sister has that, she says they each married their best friend. I like that. True friends with benefits, the friendship is more important.
My best female friend in the world thrills me everytime we get together. We are perfect business partners and she is lovely. We both got cheated on at the same time and made each other laugh, she is part of my heart. We have gone out together, yet, never on a date. We love each other; but, know that we are not meant to be a couple. Not every woman you like is meant to be your life partner.
The article assumes that there are opposite sexes so that we can have sex, he gets it all wrong. It is not about sex, it is about relationship. Women don't think like men and men don't think like women and that doesn't change just because you have a sex change operation, it is not about body parts. Now here is the truth, women who want to become men and men who want to become women DON'T want to think like the sex they wish to become. They are instead focused on the body parts, none go to therapists asking to think like the sex they wish to become. Think about it.
Transgenders are a rejection of either the sex they are. It is usually because of rejection and abuse, they are turned away from being like their father is what I have most often heard. I know more gay men than lesbians, though I have known them also. Most homosexuals do not wish to be transgendered, that is a big leap, to reject your own body, to reject being your nature and that is the point.
Our nature is to be a man and a woman. Our sheeple choice is to be any man and woman, to look at the body and the sex rather than the soul and the ability to have a healthy relationship. I guess that brings us to what can be special between a man and a woman.
Imagine men and women at their best, we can be that with each other. Men can be good providers and learn to manage their emotions. Women can be good partners and learn to manage their emotions. Two adults, male and female created the families and institutions that allowed the world to grow. IT IS ABOUT THE FAMILY UNIT, that is the best we can be. Don't look to failed relationships, look to the best relationships if you want to know what we can have and then ask why they worked, why are we attempting to deal with failure rather than duplicate success.
When talking about relationships why are we as a society so focused on SEX. Yeah, I have had it and it is nice, I actually rather enjoy it. That is not a relationship. It is an action that can be part of a relationship; but, to be successful the other parts must be there first. How bout trust, would you sleep with someone you did not trust? People do. How bout understanding, try having a relationship with someone who doesn't understand what you think.
You build a relationship around everything other than sex and then sex becomes a benefit, a real benefit, a joyous experience that you share with the person who is your partner, the most important relationship in you life. It is not a responsibility, it is in your soul, it is your being.
I will not believe that we do not have soul partners, I cannot. I question what we need to do to be ready to be with them. In order to be partners, both parties should have advanced in certain areas so that they can become whole and compliment each other. The best relationships, the one's we should attempt to emulate, were based on true affection and providing strength and understanding to each other, holding up each other, sharing failure and celebrating success as a couple, as one.
The author of the article I linked to does not believe in love, I doubt he even understands what it is or what the best type of relationship can do for you, how it can change the world. He wasn't ready for a good relationship and didn't seek one, he sought a hot looking woman who would serve him, he is a jerk.
My business partner, my female best friend. She is the owner of the company and I refuse to sign any papers with her, yet, I am a partner. I correct her and sometimes often in one conversation, I taught her business. She, on the other hand, knew how to organize things by tiny details so that I could process the information. She is brilliant and we are one very dangerous team. I love her with all my heart, sex could only screw that up. That is a great relationship and great partner; but, not a soul partner. We were not right for sex, the least important part; but, the part that proves the couple. You can have good sex with the wrong person; but, you can only have perfect sex with the right partner because it isn't about the sex, it is about pleasing your soul partner.
The worst I have ever been treated was for asking people that if they found their soul mate and their soul mate said that they wanted to wait until they were married to have sex then would they be celibate until then, to be with their soul mate. The answer was a resounding and obscene "NO". They did not wish to accept that they might have a soul mate worth waiting for. That is sad, I made that mistake too. Wait. A bad relationship is worse than none.
People ask me if I will get married again. I say I may or I may not; but, I will not marry anyone who is not my soul partner, my last and only love. I stopped dating for a reason, I believe in love, not in test driving everything you see. I finally believe that love can be unlike anything else, I have not given up on love, now I believe in it because I have seen less.
It is easy to be ready for sex, it is hard to be ready for love. Ask yourself what it takes, I will give my answer, actually I think I did. Misunderstanding is the beginning of every relationship that works. It is when we don't quite understand how the other person can even exist, it is the shock we feel when we know they are too perfect to be real, that they compliment us completely and that we can still grow together, you only get one. If you are never going to be ready than you never get to meet them and certainly never get to be with them, that would violate the rules of eternity.
Valentine's day is coming up, I hope you are with your soul partner, if you are not then I hope that someday you are. Valentine's Day is not about celebrating the female in the relationship, it is about celebrating the relationship, if you do not feel it is a relationship, don't celebrate it. If you do feel it is a relationship then celebrate it. You will know the difference, if it is a relationship then your woman will celebrate it rather than try and figure out what you gave her. Be well.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Where I Am At
I went without internet connection for the past couple of weeks. During that time I moved to Burbank. I feel sort of unconnected to the news as I don't watch tv. I am going to try to catch up and get current and than post some more about the news.
My mind has been on different things. I remember a girl I knew, I think about a home I lost, I think about what my life has meant so far. As I enter this new stage in life I wonder what it will be like. I am supposed to see one of my best friends on Sunday, she knows something that I do not and will not tell me what. I guess more surprises for me.
I don't know what the future will bring me, only bits and pieces, just like most of us. Part of my future will be finding my partner. That is scary and will change my family dynamic. It is something I never intended to do, I planned to stay married for life.
My mind has been on different things. I remember a girl I knew, I think about a home I lost, I think about what my life has meant so far. As I enter this new stage in life I wonder what it will be like. I am supposed to see one of my best friends on Sunday, she knows something that I do not and will not tell me what. I guess more surprises for me.
I don't know what the future will bring me, only bits and pieces, just like most of us. Part of my future will be finding my partner. That is scary and will change my family dynamic. It is something I never intended to do, I planned to stay married for life.
I am back and wired
I am moved and today I got my internet and cable connected. I will be posting shortly. It is good to be able to read the news again and write. The nice young lady that got my internet connected even left a comment.
The world continues to be odd. Just to get you started, what do you think about the UFO that flew over the Holy mount, Jerusalem. Here is a link with three videos.
For my dear Robbie, I am not ending the blog that I know of. I plan on some posts very soon and just have to catch up on the news.
The world continues to be odd. Just to get you started, what do you think about the UFO that flew over the Holy mount, Jerusalem. Here is a link with three videos.
For my dear Robbie, I am not ending the blog that I know of. I plan on some posts very soon and just have to catch up on the news.
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