Two Items

Firstly, someone has posted a comment and I have not approved. Nothing wrong with the comment; but, I don't use people's real names including my own. I do not wish anyone to know who my ex is, some of the readers do; but, they also know what happened.

Second item. I read a post on someone else's blog. The person had just lost their dog and was upset with their ex-wife who wouldn't give them the dog's records nor showed any sympathy. I regret to say that these things happen. I recommended that the person not look to their ex-wife for emotional support.

We lose people in different ways. Some die and some leave. Once divorced, we have to get used to the new routine, it can take awhile. There are times when something happens and my reaction is to call one of my parents; but, they are gone.

I saw a woman today, she looked like my ex-wife. I couldn't be sure if it was her. It is a strange feeling, to not be sure. In the end it didn't really matter, I just didn't care that much. If it had been her I would not have anything to say, there is nothing left to say. That part of my life, that relationship is over.

It takes awhile to stop old habits but it happens. I would be stunned if my ex-wife looked to me for emotional support. I wouldn't know how to provide it to her anymore. The best I could wish her is that she could find someone who could provide it to her. She wasn't there for me and I have nothing left to give her. That is what happens when you divorce.

Funny thing, my ex-wife honestly believed that someday we could be friends. Friends don't cheat on each other. She thought someday we could sit around, have coffee together and discuss whatever. I have nothing to say to her now and probably never will. Moving on means sharing our experiences with people who do care and are involved in the outcome. It mean sound cold, to not talk to an ex partner about an animal that the two of you shared; but, it's just the way it is.