Televisions Portrayal of Adultery

I've been watching Netflix, I watched Grey's Anatomy and it's spinoff, Private Practice. Just about every episode involves adultery. The interesting thing to me having had my wife cheat on me with multiple partners, is how little the people seem to be effected by it. On these shows people cheat on you. leave you for another person and after the initial shock go out of their way to help their exes in their new relationships.

You might think I am unforgiving; but, you would be seriously mistaken. The first time I found out that my wife cheated on me was about ten years into our marriage and resulted in her giving me an STD. We tried therapy but she would never talk about herself and left the therapy. The last person that I know of that she cheated on me was her hiking partner and that was the one she left me for. I still tried to get her to come back. Even after that, once we had divorced, she was hit by one of her boyfriends and called me for help and I gave it; but, I will never trust her and certainly don't want to go to dinner with her or even see her. She is a bad person and I try and avoid those in my life. I can be around her and even speak pleasantries; but, I don't trust her.

I don't bring up any of this too bash the ex, she is the mother of my children and I have been over it for quite awhile. This is about the things that change that they don't talk about on televisions shows or at the movies. It is about the mental after effects of infidelity. The person who is cheated on usually feels stupid for not seeing it, unattractive and unlovable and will develop trust issues. The cheater also is effected in a negative way. The new world is never the way they had fantasized.

The reality is that most people that leave their spouse for another person never marry each other. I read one stat that said 2.5%. For those that do marry their adulterous partner, the divorce rate is about 90%. The adulterer has even more trust issues than the partner that they cheated on usually. If you were the cheater and left your spouse what do you tell people when you date? Do you tell them you cheated on your spouse? Do you lie and tell them that your spouse cheated on you and hide the fact of what you did from new partners knowing that you are living a lie? How can you trust anyone after cheating on and leaving your spouse? They don't talk about these things on television.

If you are an adulterer it forever changes the way people look at you even your own family. It says that they cannot trust you. It also can effect you in business. I told a couple of people that I mentored that the first rule was that they could never lie again. The logic was simple, if you lie to your spouse how can I trust you not to lie to me? I forgave my ex years ago; but, I could never trust anything she told me again.

Let me put it this way, if you had a friend who cheated on their spouse and left them, would you be okay with them later dating your brother or sister? They don't talk about the real effects of adultery on television dramas.

I attended a birthday party for my granddaughter and the ex was there with her new boyfriend, not the man she cheated on me with, it was difficult for him and he stayed to himself. I busied myself talking to everyone else at the party and avoiding being alone with my ex. When the presents were opened we all gathered together and I ended up across from my exes new boyfriend. He chose to speak to me, he said he had heard that I was an Engineer. I am not, have not been and never intend to be an Engineer, I used to tell them what to do. She never told him what I did for a living, she never really told him about me, the man she was with for 24 years. I am not surprised that he was curious. I knew about my wife's first husband, the one that cheated on her. I told him that I was not an en gin neer. I had no intention of discussing my marriage or my ex with him. He asked me some construction questions, which I really do understand and the ex came by, sat next to him and glared at me. So, I excused myself and left.

My ex glared at me because she had something to hide from her boyfriend and was afraid I would him the truth. They don't talk about that on tv dramas. Whether my ex regrets what she did or not, what she did will effect relationship that she ever has with a man again. Television doesn't point these things out.

By the way, not all divorces are because of adultery (although that is the only reason the bible allows divorce) and sometimes a one time affair does not lead to divorce or the spouse leaving for another person.

An Autonomus Internet of Everything

I was on a trip last week and attended a jazz concert tonight; however, I did save up articles in the news to post on. I travelled with my sister and we had a wonderful time, one of the best trips of my life. We met many people, enjoyed good food, experienced wonderful service everywhere we went and had a great time just talking. I brought up self-driving cars and she said she didn't think she would see it in her life, she didn't know it is already here. I hope my readers are sharing this information with others.

Yahoo - AP - After Alps crash, some experts ponder flights without pilots. The line that sums this article is, "In my mind, it's a done deal," she says. "The business case is so strong." Let me repeat what I have said since the beginning of this blog. All transportation will be autonomous, you will not own your transportation vehicle and it will determine how you get where you are going.

Yahoo - Colorado Teacher Shares Heartbreaking Notes From Third Graders. Things kids wanted their teacher to know.

thelocal.no - Earthworms rain from sky over Norway. You name it and it has been falling from the sky for thousands of years. There have been documented cases of fish, frogs and all sort of animals falling from the sky.

Reuters - First experiment 'editing' human embryos ignites ethical furor. China is now openly publishing in medical journals that they are experimenting with changing the dna of humans on humans. This, the modification of the human creation is the beginning of the end and I am not overreacting or joking. There is no way to stop this from occurring. Even if it were outlawed, it would go on in the dark.

Fox News - In first, Norway will shut off FM radio in 2017. There are laws that regulate radio; but, many of those protections do not apply to the internet. This is another wave of the future.

CheatSheet - How America’s Middle Class Dug Its Own Grave. Basically the self serving article says that it is the middle classes fault for trusting our government that allowed a few wealthy people to outsource all of our jobs and take away our benefits. We should have know the wealthy would take advantage of us and didn't believe in the United States and community.

ABC News - Study: Self-Driving 'Taxibots' Could Replace 9 in 10 Cars. The rich don't believe people are valuable or necessary. Technology is God if all you care about is your pleasure.

Still here, still paying attention, still wanting you to see more. Peace.

Odds and Ends I Forgot to Post

Rolling Stone - Matt Taibbi - For David Brooks, the Rich Are People, the Poor Are Numbers. First a  comment. Matt Taibbi is one of very few people, authors of stories that I link to whose name appears with the link. Usually I post the name of the source, where they got the story from if it came from a news service and the story headline with the link below it. I post Matt's name because I think he is worthy of it and I enjoy most of his articles. He is one of the last true investigative and contemplative journalists left.

Forbes - Employees Forgo Wellness Cash Incentives Worth Millions. The article is from a magazine for the rich. The author is either ignorant or just really naïve. Wellness programs are started by companies to improve their bottom line by decreasing health risks. She fails to point out any details of what these people would have to do for the $30 gift card or other such nonsense.

CNN - New Ford car automatically obeys speed limits. How nice, a car that will make sure that you are driving at the right speed so you don't get a speeding ticket. How long before they become mandatory. Bye, bye Highway Patrol, you are being replaced with technology.

Yahoo - The Fiscal Times - Outrageous public pensions could bankrupt these states. The article complains that people who have already retired based upon contractual promises made for them while they were working should be lowered if it is convenient for the municipality or state. Lets say you went into government under the promise that you would get $15 an hour and an extra dollar a year would be put into a savings account for you that you could live on once you retire. Once earned, that money is no longer your employers, it is yours. Using the article, why couldn't the state or municipality come back to you, years later, and tell you that they couldn't afford to pay you that $15 an hour that they did and now want $2 back for every hour you ever worked for them. These two things are the same thing.

Wooly Mammoths and Stupid Scientists

The Telegraph - Woolly mammoth could roam again as extinct DNA merged with elephant. Scientists at Harvard claim to have spliced the genes from the extinct wooly mammoth with elephant dna. The belief is that they can bring back the wooly mammoth; but, in reality it is more like Frankenstein and unnecessary. The world has survived just fine for the last 30,000 years without the wooly mammoth and the elephants that do exist are now going extinct. So, what is the real purpose of the work?

All the money that is going into this project is NOT about bringing back the wooly mammoth. That will happen; but, there is another purpose to the project. Currently it is illegal to combine human dna with that from other animals; but, it is being done in China and North Korea. Investigate who is funding the wooly mammoth experiment and I bet there is U.S. government money somewhere or money from the defense industry. If you cannot experiment on humans, you experiment on animals. That is what is going on in my opinion.

A 3.5 Earthquake is Nothing

I was sitting in my chair and watching a show on Netflix on my computer when I felt a small tremble. It turned out that it was a "earthquake", a 3.5 earthquake. I had one of my children in the house and they didn't even notice. Having said that apparently  a bunch of people took to Twitter to say how big it was. It was nothing.

Living in Southern California and certain other places means you will experience earthquakes, small, medium, large and devastating. They are not all the same; but, people who did not grow up with them freak out. I just laugh and wonder why they are such wimps. That is the question why do people get so freaked out by earthquakes and yet, not have the same fear about hurricanes? I think I have a possible answer.

Most natural disasters can be easily understood. In the end a hurricane is just a really strong storm and we understand storms. A blizzard is a really strong snow storm and we understand snow storms. Even tsunamis make sense because anyone who lives near the sea understands it's amazing strength. We look to the earth to provide our stability, we trust in the land and believe we can own it, that it can be ours. That all goes out the window when you experience an earthquake. An earthquake proves to us that we have no control over the world, not even the land.

Detanglement Theory Spouses

I was looking up the searches that led people to my blog and one of the searches was "detanglement theory spouses". I had written a post about entanglement and soul mates. Entanglement is a quantum physics theory. It is when two particles react to each other almost instantaneously even though it is theoretically impossible for them to be effecting one another because of the distance between them. There are those who believe the same thing occurs between souls, between people. When people become emotionally entangled we call them soul mates.

Someone searched the term "detanglement theory spouses" as far as I know, that is not a concept in quantum physics. Why do you think someone would use those search terms? I assume the concept would be one regarding how two soul mates could stop being such. The fact is that once entangled they cannot be separated. The problem is that sometimes we think we are entangled, have found our soul mate; but, the reality is that we are not. Being a spouse does not mean being a soul mate all the time.

The fact that the person searched with the term "spouses" rather than "soul mates" indicates that the person who searched it is married or recently divorced and trying to figure out how to stop caring about their spouse. The answer only comes with time. Detanglement from spouses comes with time. You just have to understand that you were never really entangled, just in love and love can die. Care can remain, we can care about everyone. A different type of love.

Why The Middle Class Is No Longer Wanted - The Stockholm Syndrome.

When there were kings who owned everything, they did not have a middle class. Have you ever wondered why there was a middle class at all? The middle class was created when societies began taking over one another. Rome could not rule the world without the worlds consent. They created go-betweens in the countries they conquered to manage their affairs from the people's living in the countries they enslaved.

After the Roman Empire ensuing empires expanded the use of the conquered to manage the countries they conquered for them, they created the middle class to achieve this goal. Once begun, the middle class began believing that they were better than the people they "managed". We even saw this on slave farms in the south where some blacks were put in charge of others and began agreeing with their oppressors. Some psychiatrists refer to this as the "Stockholm Syndrome". It is when the victim begins sympathizing with their oppressor.

The middle class was created to placate enough of the oppressed to make them control the rest. During the 60s the children of the middle class began questioning this situation. It freaked out the powerful people. The hippies shook the world, they questioned the system, they questioned authority. That was when the people that believe they own the world began using their money and influence to destroy the middle class.

The middle class was a necessary evil that is no longer needed. Technology can now be used to manage the lesser classes and even workers are needed less and less.

Yahoo - Wake up! Your retirement is your problem.

Yahoo - Billionaire: Your life is going to stink. The well meaning person that actually said this was trying to tell us that the system is already working against the best interests of the majority of us.

Huffington Post - The GOP Budget: Every Tax Loophole Is Sacred. We think we all pay taxes; but, the wealthy have just about all of the deductions, so often, they do not. This is the real system that we are dealing with, one that doesn't want us to have opportunities or choices. One that wants us to pay our way while owning everything with our consent.