Friday, April 2, 2010

Men are not all rapists

I am going to start with a link to a newspaper article from England.

Why men cannot control themselves

When I was in college, I took a class in psychology. One day we had a hypothetical. We were to assume we were on a boat that sank. Afterwards we ended up on an island. We were asked what we would do. One of the women, an older woman, said she would sleep with the men so that she could be safe. She then said that she might as well give it up as the men would only force the sex anyways.

I was fairly well offended and called her on it. I am not a frickin rapist and do not appreciate ALL men being blamed for the acts of some. I will admit that many of the women I know have told me horrifying stories; but, they don't say it about me. I have been with one woman in my life, intentionally. I believe in commitment not promiscuity FOR ME.

My ex cheated on me, does that mean that I should believe all women are whores? I don't believe it. It is the same thing. Men and boys are under attack. We are either all Tiger Woods and Jesse James or bad parents. Men are portrayed on television is the worst light. The media does not show good men, only bad ones, why?

The author of the book referenced in the link at the top says that testosterone is equivalent to alcohol. It is not. I am sorry, I have drank alcohol. It is not the same. The fact that men have tetosterone does not make us all crazy. Some men are just assholes. That is what makes them do bad things, not being a man.

I am sorry, there was a time when men were chivalrous. There was a time when women were modest. What has changed is what is the cause of the wholesale disregard for each other. All men are not rapists. Testosterone is not a drug or a poison. Justifying the bad actions of some men by saying they are inately incapable of self control is filth.

There was a comedian. Mort Saul, see I remembered. He told a joke in the 80s or 90s. He talked about how women were now smoking and being promiscuous. He said the women said they wanted to be like the men. He then said that in the 50s those were the type of men that real men looked down on. He said that women's liberation taught women to be second class men.

Once women were no longer setting a higher example, men stopped being the better men also. Women, historically, reminded men that we should be good to one another. They were caretakers of the family and the family morals. Men were expected to provide for their families and protect them. We see neither now.

Morals are not bad to have. It is important to see that some things are bad and some are good. It is not just a matter of opinion, it is a question of respect and responsibility. Freedom only works is we manage ourselves. Where are the examples of good men and good women.

The current images being sold to us of men are adulterers and corrupt buisnessmen and politicians. The current images being sold to us of women are "Cougars" and baby crazy wackos. Where are ladies and gentlemen, they used to exist. Love and commitment used to matter. Honor and integrity were things to be admired and sought. Liars were condemned not excused.

The world is in the state it is because we have given up such values and instead look for excuses to do as we wish. When people discover that I have been with one woman they are shocked. I think, why are you shocked? One of the women I dated thought that by the third date I would expect sex. I had to explain that I did not. How uncomfortable it was.

I had to explain that we would not have sex because I needed to know if we were going to be committed first. I had to explain that I found her very attractive, she was, because I did not want her to think that I did not find her attractive. I do not require this attitude in others, it is not my business what others do. Still, it is my belief and I am entitled to live by my belief and suffer the consequences.

We are slaves to our urges if we do not define ourselves with our morals. We are corrupt because we will do as we please without concern for others. We only worry about our immediate wants. That is corruption, corruption of our hearts. We can do better.

We must each individually arrive at our moral code. Our faith in what is right and wrong and then actually live by it. Some do. I met a missionary, she risked her life in Papua New Guinea with a tribe that had never seen a white woman. She lived there for decades to learn their language. She was the bravest person I have ever met. She gave up a life of liesure and family to give a written langauge to others.

I knew a man, one of my best friends, I miss him dearly. He took in foster children with special needs. He then adopted them which meant the state did not pay him a penny. He adopted them so they would know they were loved for themselves. He passed away. His wife told me that he loved me. I miss him so much, he was such a great friend and an example of what a man could be. My father was also, honest as the day is long and loving and a great provider.

My mother and father were honest, committed and industrious. They taught me morals, they taught me integrity. These things are not taught anymore. Today we teach that there is no right and wrong and that we should take care of ourselves, everyman for himself. What filth.

Recently, one woman, only one, put her child in a trashcan so she could play a video game where she cared for a virtual baby. Do you not see the irony, the filth, the corruption? In one day, three mothers attempted to kill their children in Los Angeles. Some succeeded. What are we looking at?

What type of world would you like to create? One where we do as we please and are monitored in case we go too far? Or, one in which we actually care about each other and work together? The second requires development of morals. The first is created by the justification of lies.

We are headed, unfortunately, to the worst we can be. We do not all have to go there. Some of us may choose to be our better selves. We can choose to live by laws or human hearts that see when the law is wrong. When we do what is morally right and take the consequences.

I thank the followers for listening to my wild and silly ramblings. What sort of person asks for morality from people, a crazy man. To actually ask people to live by morals, responsibility. No doubt I will be locked up, as it should be. Be well.